Relaxation massage – a treat or maintenance?

Relaxation massage – a treat or maintenance?
Carole Chandler
reiki master and relaxation massage specialist

Recently, a client paused at the end of her session and while still lying on the massage couch in a state of deep relaxation she said, “I should do this more often”.

That in and of itself is not news, I have heard it before and I am always happy to hear it. I enjoy what I do and I take pleasure from hearing that people enjoy receiving what I have to offer.

If that was all that was said, then there would be no discussion to be had, however this particular client continued with, “but I feel guilty”.

How sad is that? To feel guilty for doing something that feels good to her, for doing something that is of benefit to her, for doing something that she enjoys. 

She described her visit as a treat, something for a special occasion, for her it was a rare event. As a wife and mother of three small children, she declared herself as tired most of the time and often overwhelmed with the continual organisation of things to be done. Yes, she felt guilty for taking time for herself and not attending to her list of commitments.

I used to be like that. I used to attend to everyone and everything on my list before I looked after myself. Even if (or better said even when) I felt unwell, I soldiered on. I often felt worse and my health suffered, yet I carried on. That was how I thought life was supposed to be, that was how I witnessed life for many people around me.

Then I discovered that taking time out for myself, was actually the way forward. I experienced the joy of massage. I found that it helped bring me back into balance. As if by magic it gave me more energy to deal with my list of priorities. Oddly enough it seemed to give me more time to look after the people and necessities in my life.

A turning point for me was considering the time, money and effort that are demanded for the maintenance of a car. A continual stream of attention to the vehicle, to keep it road worthy, is a process which is understood by car owners. Much effort is made to keep cars in optimum condition for the journey ahead. So if something does not feel right with your vehicle, you do something (sooner rather than later) to bring it back into balance.

What are the possible repercussions of not taking care of your vehicle?
You already know the answer to that.

What about your body? Do you make an effort to keep it in optimum condition for the journey ahead? Let’s bear in mind that you are on a journey every moment of every day of your life. If something does not feel right in your body, you could do something (sooner rather than later) to bring it back into balance.

What are the possible repercussions of not taking care of your body?
You already know the answer to that.

So, let us return to my client who was feeling blissful after her massage. I understood how she felt and I had a clear idea where she was coming from, so I offered a suggestion.

“Perhaps you could think of your massage as maintenance instead of a treat?”

She thought about it and smiled. She said that felt better. She liked that idea. She was happy with her new perspective. My work was done.

There are many ways to get back into balance. The chosen method depends on you and your preferences and only you know what appeals most to you. Relaxation massage is simply one suggestion.

So if you like massages then have them without feeling guilty.
 

Relaxation massage – a treat or maintenance?
Carole Chandler
reiki master and relaxation massage specialist
Health Zone Clinic 
0208 944 1133 Ext: 26
www.healthzoneclinic.co.uk